You Don’t Need a New Identity to Love Your Voice

I was recently listening to a podcast — and for the record, it doesn’t matter who it was or what show it was — where the conversation turned to voice, specifically to people who say, “I don’t like the sound of my voice.”

That’s something I hear all the time as a voice and speech coach.

But what caught my attention was the suggestion that, if you don’t like your voice, you can simply adopt a new identity. That you can “be someone else,” develop a new persona, and in doing so, change the way you sound.

And here’s my honest reaction to that: yes… and no.

The Problem With “Just Pick a New Identity”

Telling someone to change their identity — especially because they don’t like the sound of their voice — is not only unhelpful, it can be downright harmful.

It implies that who they are isn’t enough. That they need to become someone else in order to be taken seriously, heard, or respected. And that’s a really unsettling message to send.

What I believe — and what I know from years of working with people and their voices — is this:

You are enough.

Your voice is not something broken that needs to be replaced. It’s an instrument that may simply need attention, skill-building, and support.

Rediscovering Your Own Voice — Not Replacing It

The work of voice development is not about becoming someone you’re not.

It’s about becoming more of who you already are.

That means:

• Understanding how your voice works

• Exploring what your voice can do

• Learning how to use it with intention, range, and ease

When you do that, you don’t need to “put on” a different persona. You simply have more options available to you — and the confidence to use them.

Yes, We All Shift Roles — But That’s Not Identity Replacement

Of course, we all play different roles in different spaces.

When I’m teaching, I step into the role of a leader and facilitator — and my communication reflects that.

When I’m with my children, or talking to friends, or meeting new people, I naturally shift how I speak, listen, and engage. That’s just being human.

But that’s not about swapping out identities.

That’s about developing range and flexibility in your communication.

And that’s exactly what voice training supports — not changing who you are, but giving you the tools to show up fully, expressively, and authentically, wherever you are.

The Real Reason Many People Don’t Like Their Voice

Here’s something I wish more people knew:

Many people who say they “don’t like their voice” have simply never been taught how to use it.

They’ve never been given the tools to connect to their breath, find forward resonance, build variety, or understand how sound travels.

And so their voice doesn’t feel expressive. It doesn’t feel like them.

But it can. It absolutely can.

My Role as a Voice Coach

My job is not to make you sound like someone else.

My job is to help you discover and enjoy the full range of your own voice.

To teach you how to use it in ways that feel empowering.

To help you feel confident, connected, and clear — not because you’ve become someone new, but because you’ve become more in tune with who you already are.

If you’ve ever wished your voice felt more like you — expressive, powerful, trustworthy, engaging — that’s not about building a new persona.

It’s about learning to embody the voice you already have.

And that’s something you can absolutely learn to do.

Let’s get started. Book a call.